02 May 2012

ADVICE OF DELANY SISTERS ( contd.)

“Don’t depend too much on any one person. If you have a lot of helpers, you can be sure that someone will always be available when you need it. You will feel a lot more independent. We have different folks who do different things for us- like give us a ride, go to post office, or by vitamins. By spreading out these little favors, we are not a big burden on anyone.”

Sadie and Bessie Delany

“Never lose your sense of humor. The happiest people are the ones who are able to laugh at themselves.”

Sadie and Bessie Delany

ON SOCIALIZATION

“For true happiness, you‘ve got to have companionship----other people---in your life. It doesn’t have to be a husband or wife. It can be a friend or, like us, a sister

Sadie Delany

By now, we’ve outlived just about everyone we used to know, so many of our friends are much younger than we are. That doesn’t matter as long as you care about the same things and, just as important, if you have the same sense of humor. And you know what? Younger people can teach you a lot. They can keep you up to date. So we’ll take ‘home folks’ wherever we find them!”  Sadie Delany

“----I cherish most ---the family traditions, all those little rituals that bind you together, that keep you close---they think it doesn’t matter. Well, they’re wrong! --- It was comforting and it was fun.”

Bessie Delany



PSYCHOSOCIAL AND SPIRITUAL INFLUENCES

Spirituality is more than the response to a religion or set of beliefs. It relates to the core of person’s being and his or her connection to the universe. Ultimately, it has to do with one’s meaning and purpose in life.

“You know, when you are this old, you don’t know if you’re going to wake up in the morning. But I don’t worry about dying, and neither does Bessie. We are at peace. You do kind wonder, when it’s going to happen? That is why you learn to love each and every day, child.”

Sadie Delany

“You can’t change the past, and too many folks spend their whole lives trying to fix things that happened before their time. You’re better off using your time to improve yourself.”

Sadie Delany

“Pride in a job well done is the one kind of pride God allows you to have. I earned that pride. Nothing brings more satisfaction than doing quality work, than knowing that you’ve done that very best you can. Reach high!”

Bessie Delany

PREVENT COMPLICATIONS OF EXISTING ILLNESS OR DISEASE

“So you want to live to be 100. Well start with this: No smoking, no drinking; no chewing. And always clean your plate. Well, you can drink a little bit, but not much.”

Sadie Delany

“We try our best to preserve our health, and one way we do it is to watch what we eat and drink. We start our day by drinking a full glass of water, followed by a teaspoon of cod liver oil and a whole clove of garlic---we wash it down with one glass of cold water, then one glass of hot water.”

Bessie Delany

“It is important to eat healthy, but you won’t live a long time unless you indulge yourself every once in a while!”

“We get up with the sun, and the first thing we do is exercise. God gave you only one body, so you better be nice to it. Exercise, because if you don’t by the time you’re our age, you will be pushing up daisies.”

Sadie Delany

“There is another thing I make Bessie do that she doesn’t like too much, and that’s exercise. You’ve got to exercise, not just for your heart and lungs, but to keep from stiffing up. It keeps you limber, and that’s important when you get older.”

Sadie Delany

PREVENT YOURSELF FROM FALLING

“When you get old, every one stars to worry about you. They say ‘don’t do this, don’t do that. It drives us plumb-jack crazy. Bessie always says, ‘If I break my fool neck falling down the stairs while I’m feeding my little dog, well, so be it.” Folks think that because you‘re old you’re unable to do yourself. Well, look at us! ---But you do have to be honest about your limitations. If you don’t do that, well, your clock’s not ticking right!”

Sadie Delany

“That is a big problem with some older folks---they have such low expectations of themselves. When they get to a certain age, they just give up. That’s a shame! If there’s anything I’ve learned in all these years, its life is too good to waste a day. It’s up to you to make it sweet.”

Sadie Delany  ( after fracturing her left hip)

“Don’t be too proud to accept your limitations. The hardest thing is discovering that you can’t do everything the way you used to do. We’re not happy having folks help us around the house, but we’ve come to accept it. But make sure you hire folks to do what you want. It’s still your house and you ‘re still the boss!”

Sadie and Bessie Delany

These quotes are from The Delany Sisters’ book of every day wisdom (1994)

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